OK – one time is a mistake. 2 or more she is not obligated to forgive him. And he feels like a so called ‘monster’, well he brought it on himself. And every so called ‘hurt’ feeling he says he now is just b.s. In all honest he’s not sorry he did it, he is sorry he got caught. Because I assure you if he hadn’t gotten caught, he would STILL be cheating on Sandra.

Marriage is about respect, love and trust….Once you loose one, the others will also be gone. It is up to both of them to decide what to do, but she will never trust him again and it will fail…Sandra follow your heart.

You know, opinions are like butts, everyone has one and here’s mine. I think if you TRULY love someone you WILL NOT want to do anything to jepordize what you have. Yes, I do believe everyone deserves a second chance on most things, but infidelity is a whole different story. A one time drunken lustful night might be forgiveable, but that most definately was not the case with Jesse. I believe he did have a love for Sandra but, not the kind of love that would keep him from hurting her like that. Seems there was no true commitment there. If it were me, I would have to wait and see before giving him another chance because, actions speak louder than words. Sandra, I know your heart is broken but you do deserve to be treated like the princess you are. Time will tell so don’t act on your emotions.

We must all remember….what Sandra and Jesse choose to do…is NOT our business.

thank you charlotte. you are exactly right.

time for me to go home, work is done and one final comment from me. if you were to judge me, i would be hung up by my titars and left to die. life is full of perfections and imperfections and if we did not have them, we would be bored (like i am here today at work). and i hardly believe anyone of you who have submitted a comment have not done something so bad, you should pay dearly for it. what is that old saying “people who live in glass houses should not throw stones”….learn by those words. really if they were to announce right now they are back together, you would stop watching her movies and stop buying his cisco burgers. i don’t think so……..its the way of the world.
so everyone, have wonderful memorial day weekend.
and to rose, no i am not crazy, i just understand better than you. i know everyone out there has a past, and a present and a future and none of it is perfect like you as well. everyone always deserves a second chance. be careful you might find yourself in a position similar to that. or a position where you really are hoping for that second chance. it will come back on you.

wait till she tells jessie about us, then watch the sparks fly

Tracy Terry – are you still around making your stupid childish remarks. I’d love to wash your mouth out with some lave soap. That is for really dirty hands so that should be just the right brand for your dirty mouth!

Don’t know if this report is true or just another article to get some input into this angle; however, I do believe that JJ and SB can make it and I do believe that love covers many mistakes and that marriage is a bond that can be sacred and binding. The women involved in JJ’s mistakes and self-destructive behavior are women with little character and few morals or redemptive qualities — I do believe they will be very unhappy in their lives. My opinion is that what SB found in JJ is something she is not likely to find again. I believe that JJ loves SB as much as he is capable of and with maturity, he will learn to love even more than he can now. That will come with a good woman and SB is a good woman. I believe that the public will accept the decision should she opt to try again with him and that the marriage just may become one of the strongest in America. And, who knows — New Orleans is a magical city — renown for its “wonderful world.” Sounds like they both need a new start with their family of beautiful children and New Orleans is the place where dreams may come true. I say, some counseling and lots of forgiveness on SB’s part and they may have a strong and happy and long marriage. He is one of the few if not the only men I have seen or heard of who not only admitted his actions but consistently has said that Sandra was the best wife and he has nothing really to say against her at all. He talks about his low self-esteem and his fear of abandonment. His childhood trauma. I believe him. I also think his actions are explained by this. He also at no point ever hurt Sandra or the children physically — so his self-destructive behavior was directed toward himself, period. I say he deserves a “new life” and if JJ continues to ask for God’s forgiveness and strength, he just may get that “new life.” I say he deserves it. All he has to do is try — and he is trying. I see the beauty inside that Sandra and others have seen. He’s asked for help — and that takes a “real man” to admit he is wrong and ask for help and not place any blame on the woman he wronged. It doesn’t take away from his image as a biker whatsoever – it enhances it — bikers can be some of the best people on this planet. Good luck and God Bless, Jesse James ——and Sandra Bullock.

It’s up to Sandra to decide not us…but here are a few things to consider.
Sandra is virtuous to a fault so she may take him back for the sake of the kids. I believe what first attracted her to him if I remember right, is that he was a single day raising 3 children and he also seemed to be good with her nephew. Her maternal clock was ticking and he charmed her into a relationship and he presented himself as a good dad, the way many partners portray themselves as all good in the early stages of a relationship. She sympathetically fell for the wolf in sheep’s clothing, and the kids, so is hooked into them.
He on the other hand has been void of virtue through how many(?) relationships and seems to have learned nothing.
A few of my observations:
1. He keeps saying “I still love her” as if she is responsible for the mess. She is the one who needs to decide does she still love him. He’s the culprit.
2. If there’s anything which should make a person (man or woman) recognize their own faults and cause them to develop some scruples, it’s being a parent. Being a good parent involves thinking about the consequences of one’s actions relative to the children, it means putting the children’s interest before one’s own. It should make the parent a better person. Apparently this didn’t work for Jesse. I think he’s a bad parent for not considering the effect his cheating would have on them and what a poor example he has set for all of them. Now he expects Sandra to come back and clean up his mess.
3. Its obvious Jesse is good at lying. In the interview he couldn’t keep eye contact while answering the questions. His primary eye movement was side to side. If he were searching for an answer his eyes should have looked up and if he was remorseful at any point look down. His eyes would go back to the interviewer when he was ready for another question, but the sideways glances were betraying the lies.
4. All the things he came up with in the interview were straight out of therapeutic theory; Self sabotage, low self-esteem, child abuse. Having spent time in therapy he must have been exposed to those theories and put his strategy together to garner sympathy. I won’t believe a thing he said unless I see the transcripts to his therapy. He already told us in so many words so why not open the books, let us see how close he is to the truth. His relatives surly dispute his stories. He should be able to come up with some boyhood confidant who would vouch for him, preferably someone who was an adult at the time.
5. His smirk when he said he was “Most hated man in the world now I think”, could have been a defensive reaction but also could have indicated that he enjoys the title. He’s seems to have always tried to portray himself as a bad or tough character via his outlaw lineage and his own actions.
6. He’s made contrary statements about where he stands on the marriage and divorce. He said in public he “would let Sandra go” while maintaining to his friends and associates that he wouldn’t. That he isn’t willing to give Sandra space is indirectly manipulating her feelings. He could let her get the divorce and start over together if they agree. That way all the loose ends are tied up and there can be no manipulation by Jesse trying to coerce Sandra’s decisions.
7. Sandra’s heart strings are being pulled by the children and Jesse knows full well of this and he’s doing just what you are not supposed to do in separation or divorce, use the kids as pawns to further his leverage. (Another example of bad and unethical parenting) I wouldn’t doubt he is coaching Sunny to work on Sandra to come back.
8. Trust has been broken by Jesse and no matter how much Sandra tries she will probably never be able to tell truth from lies in the future. She may forever be in doubt, that’s something she may be willing to suffer for the rest of a relationship with if she chooses but it could take its toll on her mentally.
It’s her life and her decision.
Just seems like there could be much better for her out there somewhere and she could still see the kids.